Give me success over popularity any day

LONDON - Society makes us appear so self-centred.

Look at social media; you have to either promote yourself on Twitter and Instagram.

Then there is Facebook, where one is addressing issues pertaining to themselves.

How much more can we be narcissistic?

This week some people interviewing me on a project I am working on called me a “celebrity muse.”

As flattering as this might sound to many, for me it’s utter nonsense. And no I am not down-playing myself.

The reality is even as a so-called prolific, award-winning designer, I often feel at a loss when people actually think I am some sort of celebrity.

It makes me question the society we live in.

I sometimes wish I could slip into the minds of these people and understand their way of thinking.

To be an adult woman-changing careers in my late thirties, I have always maintained that I will have success over popularity any day.

I lose more sleep over the things I am not doing to make this world a better place.

How then can I be seen to be obsessed with my own little life when there are women in some parts of the world who are still being used as sex slaves?

The work is yet to be completed; we live in a world where the best business deals are made on a golf course or a very swanky gentleman’s club, where women like myself are not even present.

Women are still being raped, abused and labelled “bitch”, “fat” and many other obscenities.

These are my predicaments. The pursuit of popularity is clearly not among my priorities.

Incidentally, I first met the person who called me a “celebrity muse’’ more than a year ago at a private party celebrating a designer’s arrival in London.

At that time she struck me as an extremely unpretentious, funny and intelligent woman.

In a city that is swarmed with insecure, fearful people, she really stood out and made an impression.

I must admit my first impression of her didn’t change even after her exaggerated glorification of me.

I may need to “chill’’ a bit on opinions of others.

The thing is I am so focused on the business of fashion that I find it very frustrating when people still treat fashion like a glamorous industry.

From the outside it looks so fancy, however, the industry can be very ugly and if you are not prepared to put in the hours and operate with a fashion business mind set.

I have often been condemned for my own criticism of fashion weeks in this very column.

If you are asking me to be part of your fashion glamour, there better be some business operations involved after all the lights and cameras are gone.

As far as I am concerned I am not particularly inspiring.

I am not the type of woman who turns heads in a crowd or oozes some sort of sex appeal.

I want to be remembered for the events that created change.

I want to be known not only as a handbag designer, but as the woman who changed the face of handbag designing.

I am a relatively confident woman who is aggressive in life, and I suspect this often leads people to project ideas about what I am or could be.

While others soak themselves in the world of socialites, many like myself pursue a purpose.

The world is indeed our oyster. In a recent interview, I said that I was not an entrepreneur by choice, but entrepreneurship chose me.

I have no natural flair for business. I have always been able to get what I want out of a situation, and to find myself actually running a successful brand, that is going global still amazes me.

I have always had great respect for people who make business look so easy; they can recognise a great opportunity instantly and know how to manipulate it.

That is what I aspire to be.

In a country where we still have a long way to go in terms of economic freedom and development, celebrity life and being popular should be the least of our concerns.

Arise, focus and account for any lost time. You,  yes you, can be anything you want to be.

*Pamela is a Zimbabwean fashion journalist and fashion accessory designer based in the United Kingdom. She can be contacted on

    Comments (2)

    they way u think of urself, u mus be a mental case chete

    shelly - 15 March 2015

    u r in the wrong industry show me a designer who is successful yet unknown

    moto - 18 March 2015

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