Marriage not all bliss — Mujuru

HARARE - Vice President Joice Mujuru said yesterday her late husband of 34 years Solomon Mujuru was “the sweetest soldier” she had ever met, even though he led a Casanova lifestyle.

Speaking at an occasion to mark the 20th marriage anniversary of Mashonaland Central governor Martin Dinha to his wife Mercy, Mujuru, 59, a liberation war veteran whose nom de guerre was Teurai Ropa, reminisced on her marriage to the country’s first black army general whose remains were found  at his farmhouse in Beatrice, south of Harare after a fire.

Solomon Mujuru, popularly known by his guerrilla name Rex Nhongo, was married to the vice president who is now leading the stakes to succeed the 90-year-old President Robert Mugabe.

“I remember when I married Rex and I was complaining that he had so many girlfriends, I said I wanted to tell the president about his ways, but nonetheless I had never met a soldier as sweet as Rex,” VP Mujuru said.

She told people gathered at Eskbank just outside Harare in Mashonaland Central, that while people harbour lofty expectations of love and matrimonial bliss when they tie the knot, it is often not smooth sailing.

“When he came home late, I would pretend to go to the bathroom in order to smell his shirt for any perfume,” she said.

“Marriage is different to the honey and sweetie that you think of because when you marry you are marrying a person from a different background. Mazuva ano (These days) you hear of couples having different bedrooms.”

She quashed claims that at the time of her husband’s death, the couple were no longer living together.

“Nobody knew that we could live together until death,” she said.

“Makuhwa mangani amakanzwa (How many rumours did you hear about our marriage) but when he died I had spent 34 years with him. Ndiani anga ane musikanzwa saSolomon? (Who was a bed-hopper like Solomon?)” questioned Mujuru as she implored women to take matrimonial disappointment in their stride.

Tolerance, Mujuru said, was key in sustaining any marriage. She decried the alarming  rate of divorces.

She recalled with nostalgia her visits to London to buy designer suits for the late liberation war icon. At one point she said she schemed to fix the late general by purchasing white bedroom sheets that he was not used to.

She said there was no cure for marital disharmony, but urged couples to resolve their differences amicably.

Mujuru said at times she had to throw kids’ shoes away which she would find in the late general’s car, but never thought for once of throwing in the towel.

“Ndaiwana mumota mune bhutsu, ndotora ndorasa (I would find kids shoes and throw them away),” said Mujuru.

She, however said sometimes when the marriage cannot be salvaged, splitting could be the only way to go in order to guard against violence and murder, which is now all-too-common.

The glittering ceremony was graced by ministers Sydney Sekeramayi, Nicholas Goche and Savior Kasukuwere and other top government officials.

Comments (5)

Mai Mujuru is a great woman and leader. She teaches great things particularly women to keep their marriages. Sometimes i just think her war experience talk her a lot of skills in everything. Mai Mujuru wanogara and wanoramba wachitaurira madzimai abi wawo kuti wasikana musapaparike chengetai dzimba.

TRUTH - 22 April 2014

What lesson can one learn from Mrs Mujuru's utterances? None whatsoever. Mujuru must be telling men to lead exemplary lives and not engage in promiscuity. Promiscuity is as dangerous as it is expensive. Rex Nhongo, due to his link to the gravy train was able to maintain so many households. But how many men can afford that? Very few. Those who can afford that are also exposing themselves to diseases and emotional breakdowns. You are exposed to AIDS and there is always the chance that you will soon discover that your "sweet" mistress is also having multiple sexual relations. Some mistresses are as good as public toilets. They look good from outside but inside its all terrible. Need I say more?

Feldman Bandura - 22 April 2014

I think Mujuru must not say Rex was Casanova, because when she says "he was the sweetest soldier she has ever had..." it presupposes that she had many to whom she is comparing with Rex. yes "sweetest" lies in the parameters of comparison. does it mean that she has also dated several soldiers such that she would realise the Cde Rex was the sweetest? food for thought

ishue - 22 April 2014

Vakatapirirwa ne love yeMusoja!

JSC - 23 April 2014

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